Your spouse is different. They seem to react to things in a new way, and you get that funny feeling inside suspecting something is up. Does this sound like you? If you suspect your spouse is cheating, leading a double life, that might actually be the case. The signs of a cheating spouse are easy to spot – if you know what to look for.

A cheating partner is going to suddenly be overwhelmed in the affair. Everything and anything will be about their secret lover. They will adapt to suit this person, even changing their appearance choices – different haircut, new cologne/perfume, even a brand new wardrobe. This is a key factor in spotting a cheating spouse. Yes, there are times when a person gets to a point where they need a change – but not all at once! If they are trying to impress their dirty little secret, they will do whatever it takes.

Anything they can do to cause conflict between you two, they will attempt. The further they can be from you, the safer they are with their secret – or so they think. If you spouse becomes more defensive, opts to argue more and create tension between the two of you, you might want to suspect some ulterior motive. You will also get the “I’m too tired” or “Not tonight, I have a headache” lines.

Unknown charges on your credit cards or unfamiliar numbers on your phone bill could also indicate your spouse is cheating. Buying gifts for a secret lover is a normal part of the game, and if they are not together all the time, there will be phone conversations. Another indicator is more than normal time online – probably chatting or emailing them. You will also notice that they virtually sprint to get the bills before you – that way can cover their tracks.

You two are the perfect couple. You know what they like to eat, their favorite color, you can even help them pick out clothing they like. And life continues on the happy track with no concerns, cares or fears. And then one day, something inside you is screaming out. Why suddenly do you have a funny feeling about your significant other? Something has changed, you cannot pin-point it, but you suspect something different about your partner. And when we are faced with the unknown, we expect the worst.

Maybe it isn’t anything. Or maybe your perfect partner is leading a double life.

We stress over the unknown and choose to get to the bottom of things as quickly as possible. To get to the bottom, you have to know what signs and sometimes subtle actions to look for in a cheating partner.

Maybe it isn’t anything. – SIGH – Read on…

Someone that has moved their focus elsewhere – such as a new flame in their lives – will show signs of distraction. They are more likely to daydream as they think about the next time they will get together. Sometimes stresses at work can put a person in a less-focused frame of mind, and hopefully you are the know about any issues they are having. However, if they are not pouring out to you their daily stresses, as many of us do, it could be a secret they keep. The distraction can also lead to less participation in activities around the house – all they want to do is be with this other person – the last thing on their minds is the household and unfortunately, you.

Then you get the opposite of this. You partner seems on edge, even overly alert. This comes about due to their guilt-ridden side. They may offer to help with laundry – hmm, wonder why – or run “errands” for you. They watch for the mail, almost rushing to the box to get it first. Now, anyone that rushes to get the phone bill or credit card bill is either 1) whacked, or more likely, 2) trying to hide something. This heighten sense of awareness is an indicator that they are trying to stay a step ahead of you. My, my are they ever clever – and somehow figure you never will notice!

Couples are pretty much in tune when it comes to their sex lives. You know when the last time was, or how long it has been, even where it was. So when you start to see changes in their attitude toward your sex life, you better be on top of it right away (figuratively speaking). Think about it, if they are getting their sexual desires fulfilled elsewhere, they may less likely want to have sex at home. If you get the “I’m too tired” line often, and you cannot see any reasons they possibly could be tired, then they are probably telling the truth – they are getting sexually worn out with their new passion. Lack of sex is not always the indicator however. If they start asking about unusual (to your relationship) sexual activity, this could be a sign that whatever this new lover has offered, they want the same from you. Yuck! You know what they say about “seconds”.

How certain can you be that your spouse is faithful? There might be times when you notice your spouse is not the same person. They may think they are keeping their secret double life hidden from you, however, without knowing it, they are telling you all about it. Find out what signs of a cheating spouse you should look for.

There is nothing better than a combination of guilt and paranoia to uncover the double life of your cheating spouse. The cheater is going to feel some degree of guilt for being unfaithful and they may sense you know something. This is where paranoia steps in. If you notice your spouse grabbing the bills before you, running to answer the phone, or questioning your every move, you could have a cheater on your hands. They will be in a heightened alert mode, worried they cover all their actions.

First impressions are everything. If your spouse is leading a double life, they will want to do whatever it takes to impress their new lover. Changes you might see include:

• New wardrobe or clothing style
• Different cologne/perfume
• Changes to personal hygeine
• A new exercise regime

Most people usually do not like change. If you notice your spouse is sporting a new look or “scent”, you might have a cheating spouse.

For a variety of reasons, a couple may have intimacy issues. Stress or having something on your mind can affect the closeness between two people. In your case, your spouse might be getting their needed intimacy from their new lover. If they are getting their “fill” elsewhere, you will notice they spend less close time with you. Their actions might include being tired, having extra work to do that keeps them up late or just falling asleep on the couch watching television. If you are feeling alone in your relationship, there is probably a reason.

Somehow your spouse just isn’t the same person they used to be. Given that relationships do change with time, in all possibility, it might just be that.

What if it isn’t and turns out to be something worse?

Accusing your spouse of cheating can be a dangerous thing – you better make sure you are right. If you are not completely sure, there are certain red flags that SCREAM out cheater. Pay careful attention and you too can catch a cheating spouse!

Cheaters are not always aware of how much of their secret they give away. Anyone that is in the midst of something new always reacts differently. With this new love they think they have discovered, their mind will overflow with thoughts of them, and everything else will come in second – including you. If your spouse seems distracted, lost in thought, daydreaming or just not there, it is likely they are overly focusing on their new flame. They may opt out of social gatherings, and want to spend more time alone.

Combined with this over infatuation is sudden and unexplainable change. Different hairstyles, changes in cologne or perfume choices, and even a new wardrobe could signify a cheating spouse. They want to impress their new love and do whatever it takes to do so. If your spouse seems to be going through drastic changes, and nothing you know of could spur it on, they might be cheating on you. And it does not end at visible change. Changes in attitude, thoughts and beliefs might also be present – they are under the control of their new flame – assimilation has begun.

One other dead give away of a cheating spouse is their heightened paranoia. They are committing adultery and more than likely are having feelings of guilt. They might come across like you are interrogating them every time you ask a question. Getting hold of credit card and cell phone bills before you even see them might indicate they are hiding something. Are they jumpy when the phone rings? They are not very good at hiding their secret, are they?

Do you fear your spouse is cheating on you, leading a double life? If you suspect something, but cannot be certain, there are signs to watch for that will give away their secret. These plainly obvious red flags will help you put an end to your spouses infidelity.

At the onset of any new relationship, there is a desire to give the other person what they want. Each will mold themselves to suit the other; if it means to make them happy and closer. Examples you might be witness to include changes to clothing styles, new perfume or cologne, even a heightened exercise regime. Your spouse’s little secret lover might like your spouse to wear certain things, or smell a certain way. These would be considered drastic changes. If your spouse has been wearing the same styles and using the same perfume or cologne for a long time, a sudden change could mean something is up.

When in a new relationship, each person will be nearly overwhelmed with thoughts of the other. You might notice that your spouse spends considerably more time daydreaming. They will be less focused on you and the household as they spend time in thought and that next encounter with the new flame. There will be less desire to participate in things with you and friends, as this would distract them from where they want to be. If a normally alert spouse seems lost in “la-la” land, it might be due to an affair.

Sex and intimacy with your spouse will probably suffer when they are leading a double life. If they are active in a sexual manner with their new flame, they are less likely going to come to you for it. They probably will make excuse after excuse to avoid any intimate time with you – we have all heard the regular lines: “I’m tired”, “Not tonight, I have a headache”. And in a twisted way, if they are intimate with you, and their “dedication” is with their new flame, it would feel like they were cheating. While there can be many reasons for lack of sexual drive, you should consider this a red flag.

Lately you may have noticed changes in your spouse. They just do not seem to be the same person you once knew. This gets you starting to wonder – are they cheating on me? Even they might not realize it, but a cheating spouse DOES give you tips they are cheating. Look for these signs and put an end to their cheating ways.

A spouse that is cheating and have their “interests” elsewhere, are going to come up short in the intimacy department. You are probably pretty in tune with how your sex life has been over the span of your relationship so it should be easy to spot an all time low. If they are getting what they need from that new significant other, they are going to have little interest in you. It sounds harsh, but that is the fact of the matter. Even more whacked is that they probably would feel like they were cheating on their secret lover if they DID have sex with you! On the flip side, if your spouse suddenly is craving a “wild and crazy” sex life, that could also be a sign they are cheating on you.

If your spouse comes home one day with a new hair-do and the latest trendy clothes, you might suspect a cheating spouse. This is particularly true if your spouse rarely likes change. This new lover they are “ga-ga” over probably has a different look on style and fashion and they will probably adopt the look as their own – to impress them! Unless you can conclude they are going through some mid-life crisis or they can tell you why they are suddenly changing everything about themselves, you want to look deeper into their possible secret life!

A spouse that is cheating will have most of their attention on that new secret lover. This leads to a number of visible changes in character. They might daydream more, forget to do things they usually do or just plain show a dis-interest in anything that has to do with your relationship. All they are thinking about is the next encounter and everything else comes second to that. Along with these changes, they probably will become more defensive and quarrelsome. If they can get you upset, then more than likely you will leave them alone to dream about their secret life.