Infidelity 101 – Love is Blind, A Cheating Spouse is Strikingly Obvious

The next door neighbor just went through it, and one of your co-workers just found out. Becoming a victim of infidelity was the last thing on your mind. It was the kind of thing that happened to everyone else – not you. Or so you thought. Your spouse seems different; the way they act, and the things they say. You suspect you are dealing with a cheating spouse. Here are a few tip-offs of a cheating partner to look for.

Suddenly your spouse has new ideas about their outer appearance; changes in fashion, a new cologne/perfume, an exercise regime fit for boot camp, you name it. Who are they trying to impress? If you do not sense it is you, then it must be for someone else – that NEW significant other! When in a new relationship it is important to impress the other person. They start to do things that jive with the new flame’s interests and characteristics. Big red flag!

Have you sensed less intimacy lately? It does not take a lot to notice less sex, less kissing and hugging, less closeness. Considering your spouse possibly is getting all of that somewhere else, of course you are going to get leftovers. In a mixed up way, if they are intimate with you, it makes them feel as if they were cheating on their secret lover! How messed up is that? Unless you can find a reason for this lack of intimacy, such as work, financial or health stresses, chances are you have a cheating spouse on your hands.

Spending less time away from home, such as late nights at work, or extra out of town “business” meetings, could signify a cheating spouse. If they are less likely to be involved in activities with you, and suddenly prefer to get the groceries alone, you might want to investigate further. Something as blatant as inquiring to how long you are going to be gone on an errand might mean they are planning something special with their someone special. A quick phone call to work when they are working late, a visit with a late night snack, or coming home before they expect you could reveal more than you want to know.